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The Mother of All Cure-Alls

So who wouldn’t want to hear that sex will make ALL of their troubles just disappear? WELL step right up folks because I found something that will knock your socks off. (seriously take your socks off right now) 20130723-111453.jpgThat’s right, I am here to tell you how with just one orgasm, let me repeat that JUST ONE ORGASM you could be saving a life! Now I highly recommend taking many MANY doses of this wonderful cure-all in order to make it more effective and longer-lasting. I can not stress enough how important this treatment could benefit your life. Listed below are just 25 ailments that can be alleviated and cured by simply getting it on. Have fun with it.
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25 Ailments That Can Be Cured By Having Sex

Depression: Without the help of researchers, just about anyone can agree that sex will make you feel good about yourself and better about your relationship. But one researcher has said there’s a scientific explanation that goes a bit farther. Professor Gordon Gallop says that there’s an unknown chemical in semen that has an antidepressant effect on women. (I’m on board for this. Now to find a doctor and ask which method of injection is most effective. I know which one I prefer. Which one is your favorite?)

Pregnancy: Sex is both the cause and the cure for pregnancy. Women who are ready to induce labor often have sex to speed up the process, and research backs up this method. Semen contains prostaglandins, which help the cervix prepare to open, and orgasms produce oxytocin, which will help cause contractions. (I can’t tell you how many women I have told this to. I mean sure you feel huge and hot and uncomfortable, so tell your guy to get off, get on your hands and knees and let him give it to your good…hehe)

Headaches: Although sex can sometimes bring on a headache, it can cure them too. The tension release your body experiences during and after sex can ease restricted blood vessels in the brain. (So much for that excuse ladies! haha)

Menstrual cramps: Sex acts as an analgetic to relieve menstrual pain, primarily because of the relaxation and endorphins sex brings. (I wonder how many guys would be on board with this. Sounds like an opportunity for a poll.)

Arthritis: In his book, “How to Treat Arthritis with Sex and Alcohol,” rheumatologist Carter V. Multz asserts that sex, as well as alcohol and other complementary treatments, can reduce pain, swelling, and inflammation associated with arthritis. (Yeah…I want to be having sex till I simply can’t anymore so …good to know.)

Common cold: Manfred Schedlovski, a Swiss researcher from Zurich, asserts that sex has a positive effect on phagocytes, which are a part of the immune system that goes after alien bodies, like cold germs, and kills them. Phagocytes are increased signficantly during sex, and will often double after orgasm. (Who wants to have sex when they are sick? Raise your hand.)

Stress: Orgasms offer a great way to relax, and even nonorgasmic sex offers some relief. Dr. Joshua Golden asserts sex’s relaxation properties, as well as emotional benefits. (That explosion goes so much farther than to just release fluids!)

Tooth decay: Kissing, as well as oral sex, encourages saliva production. This increase in saliva helps to wash food particles from your teeth, prevents plaque build-up, and helps lower decay-causing acid. Additionaly, seminal plasma has been shown to help prevent tooth decay. (I bet a man was eager to make these scientific findings public…”HONEY, you’ll never guess what I just found out!!!” haha)

Erectile dysfunction: By exercising your Kegel muscles with frequent sex and delaying ejaculation, men can help strengthen muscles enough to help with minor erection problems. (nice)

High blood pressure: Semen has been found to lower blood pressure in women. Specifically, swallowing semen can help ward off preeclampsia, which is a dangerously high blood pressure that sometimes occurs during pregnancy. (Again with the oral…where can you go wrong?)

Insomnia: Many people find that the relaxation they experience after sex helps them go to sleep. (HAHA …like we didn’t already know this?)

Prostate cancer: Men who ejaculate more frequently have been found to be at a lower risk of developing prostate cancer. (Prostatitis is also benefited from sex because frequent ejaculation flushes the prostate according to http://healthyliving.msn.com/health-wellness/men/sex/is-sex-good-for-you-1)

Hangovers: Sex may not save your liver, but it will help you shake off a funk. Having sex will help boost your endorphins and oxytocins, which stimulate muscle contraction and help you avoid aggressiveness. (And who isn’t in a funk with a hangover but be sure to hydrate before your work out. A big glass of water will give you more stamina and refresh your energy for a round of loving)

Toxic system: Sex gets your blood pumping faster, which helps to rid the body of waste. (So put AWAY those teas and green drinks and get busy.)

Heart disease: Studies have shown that if men have sex twice a week or more, they tend to have a lower risk of heart attack. For women, increased levels of estrogen caused by sex help to protect against heart disease. (“Oh honey…think of your heart.” “I AM!!!”)

Stubborn wounds: Studies have found that oxytocin, which is released during sex, can help wounds heal faster. (Not just a laying on of hands…)

Low energy: Sex increases energy through exercise and emotional well-being.
Minor cognitive problems: Whenever you become sexually excited or have an orgasm, the hormone DHEA is released. DHEA has been found to improve cognition. (This seems like mixed signals but I’ll just go with it)

Skin irritations: The sweat released during sex will cleanse your pores, helping to relieve rashes, blemishes, and other skin problems. (So get OUT of the sauna and and into bed!)

Pain: Orgasm releases endorphins, which will alleviate pain for just about everything. (Just think…how many times a day can you help yourself to this pain relief?…hmmm)

Obesity: Although few doctors are likely to prescribe a sex diet, the fact is that sex is a form of exercise. Performing the act of sex requires physical activity that will burn calories and strengthen your heart. It’s an especially great exercise for those who have little motivation to get to the gym. (I’m game)

Incontinence: Every time you have sex, you’re exercising your Kegel muscles, which are the same ones you use to stem the flow of urine. (And ladies…had a few kids??? Yup…this works.)

Weak bones and muscles: Sex brings on a boost of testosterone, which helps to make your bones and muscles strong. (“Oh…I just don’t feel very strong honey. Could you get on top?”)

Semen allergy: Unfortunately, some women are allergic to their partner’s semen. However, along with other treatments, frequent sex has been found to work as an effective desensitization therapy for this allergy. (So over exposure? Wish that would work for my Lactose Intolerance!)

Death: That’s right, sex can help ward off death for men. Professor Stuart Brody reports that men who orgasm twice a week are half as likely to die as those who only orgasm once a month. (“I am trying to save your LIFE! Now get over here a FUCK ME!”)

Read the Full Article: http://www.100bestdatingsites.com/blog/2008/25-ailments-that-can-be-cured-by-having-sex/
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So ladies and gentleman…MAKE TIME and GET HEALTHY!!!

A Bit about Boobs

So two tits walk into a bar…but seriously…no really…does anyone know how to finish that with out staring and going speechless? hehe Unless of course you are from the UK and a person who is a tit means they are an ass. HAHA (and why IS being a tit bad exactly?)

OK so I recently read an article about breasts and was surprised to actually learn something new! So I dug a bit deeper and found more than I could have ever dreamed. Some of the facts seem arbitrary but if you learn something new then HEY how can I go wrong by bringing it to your attention?
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1) The average breast weighs 1.1 lbs and contains 4-5% of the body’s fat. (hmmm I am thinking mine are a bit more at DDD but who’s complaining. NOT ME!)

2) The breasts swell up and get erect when aroused–just like the penis! (Kinda hot if you ask me)

3) When erect, the average nipple is slightly taller than 5 stacked quarters. (As nipple size goes not really sure about this fact. However, it does say “average” …so if I think mine are a bit smaller I won’t sweat it but testing will need to be conducted to find out…hehe)

4) The average breast size in America is currently a 36C, although 15 years ago it was a 34B. (Again this is just an average but as the proud owner of DDD cups, it is one of the best things to be above average in…if I do say so myself. As to why the average has increased I could only guess it is a combination of hormones in cow milk, genetics and breast augmentation. Feel free to argue you point as to why though.)

5) In 2008, there were more than 300,000 breast enhancement surgeries performed in the U.S. (To each her own and it SHOULD be HER decision but it is not for me…now talk to me about a tummy tuck later and I would take it under consideration.) Sadly, a 15-year long study found that there is a 73 percent higher rate of suicide in women who get breast implants. This probably isn’t because of the surgery itself, but is most likely because women who get implants are probably already very unhappy with themselves. Poor self-esteem can lead to severe depression. (So perking up isn’t always an option for some women. Taking care of the whole package is the real challenge.)

6) During the same year, there were nearly 18,000 breast reductions performed … ON MEN. (ummm…*speechless)

7) In the early days of surgical breast augmentation, surgeons used implants made from a number of peculiar ingredients–including ox cartilage, glass balls, polyester and ground rubber–with disastrous results. (GLASS??? As a person who sleeps on her stomach typically that is a resounding NO!!!)

8) Did you know that there is a size 38KKK bra? It’s worn by the woman with the world’s largest implants. And there is a woman with the worlds largest natural breasts wearing 102ZZZ. Check her out! http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2172590/Woman-worlds-largest-natural-breasts-claims-102ZZZ-cup-assets-require-security.html

9) It’s legal for women to walk around showing off their breasts in Hawaii, Texas, Ohio, New York and Maine–though they can still be picked up on public nuisance laws. (Although I couldn’t do it personally, I should be allowed and have the option!)

10) Breast milk tastes sweeter than cow’s milk. (IT IS…much sweeter! Yes I have tasted my own…It is right there why wouldn’t I? Figure if it is good for the baby I want to know why they are latched on so much…haha. I also recently learned that it is also a fetish for some people called ANR [Adult Nursing Relationship] or Erotic Nursing. There was so much info that I might just have to write a whole article JUST on that topic!)

11) Smokers will have saggier boobs than non-smokers, because the chemicals in cigarettes break down the body’s elastin. (Glad I quit! Had I known I may have quit sooner I love mine and would hate for this to happen to them.)

12) Breasts are the first things a dude looks at. Studies show that breasts are the first thing a man looks at when he looks at a woman and they are also the things men look at the longest. But I guess it’s a positive for them, since studies also show that when guys look at boobies, they get happier. (And who doesn’t need more joy in their life?)

13) The majority of women have uneven breasts, and the difference can be up to 20 percent. So uneven boobs are really no big deal! For the majority of women, the left breast is the one that is bigger. But that doesn’t mean it’s always that way! (Yup, but as for me, my left is smaller and my right is a bit bigger. Not by much but enough. So technically, does that make my larger breast YOUR left? Oh who cares they are Fabulous.)

14) Breasts are slow growers. Boobs can keep growing for up to four years after a girl gets her first period, maybe even longer. In fact, researchers have found that breasts are the slowest growing organ in our bodies. (Now THIS I did not know!)

15) Our boobs can make it hard for guys to concentrate. Research shows that men had a hard time on cognitive tests after looking at images of large breasts. This is probably because they got turned on and distracted. (Yeah like I never knew this…did they REALLY have to do research to figure this out? Oh…of course they did…it’s FOR SCIENCE!)

16) Both men and women can have extra nipples. 1 in 18 men and 1 in 50 women have an extra nipple or two. It’s a condition called Polythelia and it’s nothing to be concerned about. In fact, sometimes they don’t even look like nipples, they just look like moles! (I don’t think I have one but I might have to go exploring.)

17) We can orgasm from our boobs alone. Apparently, some women don’t need to be touched down there in order to achieve orgasm. One study has found that about 1 percent of women can orgasm just from having their breasts stimulated. (I think I may have mentioned this fact before but it deserves repeating!)

I found all of this info in the 2 articles listed below.
Read the full Article: 11 Fun Facts About Breasts
Read the Full Article: 15 Crazy Interesting Facts About Your Breasts
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Hope this has shed some NEW light on the topic of tits. Have fun with that.
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Get a Grip

So I was watching Weeds last night. Beginning of the most recent season on Netflix and suddenly right before two of the characters have spontaneous sex, in a hospital room mind you, and the female character says “Hold on I have to take my weight out.” So she reaches in and hands it to the male character who is impressed and surprised by the heaviness of such a small long egg shaped object. She went on to explain how it is rebuilding her pelvic floor muscles after having twins and that she has been “getting pretty buff down there.” Then he says (cheesily mind you) “Oh…Buff Muff” and they go at it again.
OK Stop. I had to look this up. So here it is!
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So ….they are called Vaginal Weights

They look like this:
vaginalweights

And you can buy them here: http://www.amazon.com/PELVINN-Kegel-Exercise-Weights/dp/B0034DLBB2

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Vaginal weight lifting

Everyone has heard of weight lifting with weigh machines or free weights, like barbells, dumbbells and even kettlebells, but now there’s a new kid on the block. Vaginal weights are coming to a store near you. No, I’m not making it up. Just like traditional weights, vaginal weights exist to exercise and build up muscle groups. In this case, the muscle group in question is a rather intimate one. Vaginal weights were created to exercise the pelvic muscle groups responsible for tone in the vagina and surrounding structures.
Read the Full Article Here: http://www.skepticalob.com/2008/12/vaginal-weight-lifting.html

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The article goes on to talk about SUI (Stress Urinary Incontinence) and the pros and cons of this product. However I needed more info.

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In the same search I found these and they looked like even more fun!

I found them HERE: BenWahttp://middlesexmd.com/product-category/kegel-products-and-exercise-tools

See the little description on this box right there. It says “Ben Wa Balls with Silicone Strap”

CLICK! I’ve heard of Ben Wa Balls! So basically you do a 15 min workout every day and over time you get back and possibly gain more muscle control throughout your pelvic floor muscle groups.

And then I found this gem.

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My First Ben Wa Balls: A Detailed Account

I found myself, not long after the New Year began, with my husband in my somewhat local adult video warehouse looking at Ben Wa balls.

Ben Wa balls are meant to be inserted into your vagina and left in there for at least 15 minutes a day. The balls supposedly give your vaginal wall muscles a workout, similar to doing Kegel exercises. Over time your vagina gets tighter and stronger, leading to more satisfying sex for both you and your partner.

I’d always heard people speak about Ben Wa balls but have never known anyone to use them, or at least admit that they do. But they always sounded sexy and a little dirty to me, in a good way. So as part of my New Year’s resolution to be even more open minded, sexually and otherwise, I decided the time had come to purchase a pair for myself.

In the store, I spent a good 15 minutes in the Ben Wa aisle, next to the anal beads and giant renditions of multi-ethnic penises, reading the backs of the packages and imagining what the different types of balls would feel like. Some packages had four balls, some had two. They came in all different sizes and materials; some were silicone while others were glass or metal. And some were joined together by a tether meant to hang out of your vagina, making it easier to pull them out. Those seemed like a cop-out to me. I wanted the real thing.

I ended up buying the glass ones because they just seemed more sanitary. Glass is impermeable and easy to clean. Plus they came in a little satin box that reminded me of the kind of box my engagement ring would have come in if I had gotten an engagement ring. (Got an awning for my house instead. Much more useful and cost effective.)

The balls were easy to insert (instructions say to use lubricant) and I did have the sensation of being vaginally full. And it was a pleasurable feeling though not enough to bring me to climax. I did some housework with them in and then some work at my computer. Then my husband came home and we tested them out that way as well.

The results? I’m a believer and I like them. I didn’t really get any benefit from having them in while getting it on with my husband. But I’ll use them as a way to tighten things up. Already, after a week, I feel some difference.

One word of advice, for the beginner or for the woman who isn’t comfortable playing gynecologist with herself, buy the kind with the tether. Because though the first Ben Wa ball comes out easily for me each time, the second one always seems to get stuck. Just so you know.

Read the Full Article Here: http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/114812/My_First_Ben_Wa_Balls
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Guess what I want….

Thanks for the Mammaries

As the bearer of large breasts (DDD cup) any type of message that leads to my not only getting to keep them but also giving me an opportunity to prevent breast cancer I am ALL for it! No my life would not be over if I didn’t have breasts but I have become a bit attached to them. As much as they get in the way I love them. They are natural and I have made my peace with their occasional inconveniences in favor of the convenient fun I get out of having them. I have even taken to proudly wearing lower cut necklines. I didn’t always feel they had a lot to offer.

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Squeezing breasts could prevent cancer, best study ever say

Getting to second base, the holy grail for hormonal boys, is now science: New research has shown that squeezing breasts could prevent malignant breast cells from causing cancer. This doesn’t give pervy dudes license to grope you on the subway, ladies, but it does mean boob-grabbing should be a regular part of your self-care routine (yes, absolutely try it DIY-style). Experiments found that physical pressure led cells back to normal growth patterns, and that even after compression was no longer applied, the malignant cells stopped growing. Spread the word, boob-lovers of the world.

Read the Full Article: http://now.msn.com/squeezing-breasts-can-stop-cancer
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7 Amazing Things to Know About Breasts

Breasts want freedom.
Bras restrict the movement of lymphatic fluid through the breasts, underarm, and shoulders, thus causing toxins to build up in the breast tissue. Underwire bras are the worst culprit, as the metal also can disrupt the energy flow through the breast area. A recent French study has shown that women who don’t wear bras actually have perkier breasts even as they age. Exercising, dance, and rebounding without a bra also allows the body’s movements to support lymphatic flow and proper drainage of the breasts. The natural movement of the breasts as the body exercises and moves is another essential component to lymphatic health in the breasts. (grrr…I love being braless but with size comes sag and I prefer the look of my breasts in a supportive, well fitted, underwire bra)

Breasts need massage.
There is no muscle tissue in a women’s breasts, so breasts need assistance to enhance circulation through the breast. A woman’s breasts are mostly fat tissue along with milk ducts, connective tissue, nerves, and lymph glands. Self breast massage is an important regular practice for women to support their blood and lymph circulation and reduce build-up of toxins and hormones in the fatty tissue of the breasts. Massage your breasts daily with a natural cold-pressed vegetable oil, such as coconut, almond, or jojoba oil. You can also add pure essential oils such as rose, jasmine, or clary sage to your massage oil base. I’m not talking about “man-handling” here, I’m talking about gentle self massage in which you get to know what your breasts feel like, notice any changes, and use gentle lymphatic and circulatory movements to enhance health. (This I enjoy!)

Breasts are hot.
It has been well-documented that a woman’s breasts will synchronize with her newborn baby to become the perfect temperature. When a mother and baby are skin-to-skin postpartum, her breasts will naturally adjust their temperature to regulate the baby’s body temperature optimally. A mother of twins will have each of her breasts match the ideal temperature for each one of her twins. A women’s breasts are more reliable and efficient than any baby warmer. So breasts are totally hot – just not in the way people usually talk about. (Neither of my children drank from a bottle…ever)

Breastmilk has a gazillion medicinal uses.
Breastmilk is pretty much the most amazing food substance available to mankind. Mother’s milk is completely unique and not possible to replicate (despite what you may have heard from the formula companies). It actually changes minute by minute, day to day, to provide exactly the right nourishment and immunities that a baby needs as determined by the breast through receiving information from the baby’s saliva on the areola. There are over 400+ identified nutrients in human breast milk, including probiotics and an abundant source of stem cells. The first milk that comes out is colostrum, which is rich with immune factors and is considered to be “liquid gold”, and extremely important for the life-long health of the baby. Breastmilk is also used by wise mamas for many purposes including putting on diaper rash, earaches, pink eye, sore throats, and many other healing needs. When a women breastfeeds the breastmilk bathes her milk ducts as it passes through to her baby, thus providing increased breast health and preventing breast cancer in direct relation to how long she nurses. (Yeah…breastmilk is truly amazing…tastes good too!)

Breasts are energy centers.
Traditional Chinese Medicine is a complete system of health that has been practiced for thousands of years, based upon the movement of energy through the body on the meridians (energy lines) and acupoints (nodes of energy on the meridians). There are six meridians that run through the breast area, and three of them are the Kidney, Liver, and Stomach meridians where most breast lumps and cancer develop. TCM treats breast cancer by addressing the energy stagnation and movement of qi. Acupuncture and TCM are holistic ways to promote breast health and can be used in combination with other health care treatments as well. Massaging the acupressure points along the meridians, or holding these energy points around the breasts, can help with promoting breast and whole body health and vitality. Underwire bras can also interfere with the energy moving through the meridians in the breasts, another reason to let your boobs go free, or invest in a soft supportive natural fiber bra. (Will have to look into this further)

Breasts are a lot like canaries.
You’ve heard about the canary in the coal mine? Miners would take canaries down in the mines with them, because the birds were so sensitive that if the environment was toxic the canaries would die, and then the miners would know to get out of there immediately! Breasts are extremely sensitive, they receive information from the environment and their tissues collect toxins and hormones, like jet fuel and flame retardants. When breastfeeding, the saliva from the baby is absorbed into the areola and the breasts then immediately respond by providing the nutrients and immune factors that the baby needs based upon the breast’s incredibly sensitive receptors. Breast cancer is now the most common form of cancer for women in the US, and it’s not because breasts or our genes are the problem. Our breasts are the canaries letting us know that our environment is toxic and we must make changes in our health, diets, exposure, and detox. Due to the over 70,000 chemicals now used in the US over the last 100 years, we are living in a toxic soup and exposed to chemicals in our air, food, water, homes, cars, clothes, and more. Our breasts are letting us know that we need to create a healthy change for our longevity and the future generations. (Mind blown yet?)

Breasts are beautiful.
Your breasts are perfect for you. All kinds of breasts are beautiful. Breasts change in shape and size over life, and that’s okay. Some men like large breasts, others prefer small breasts, and some like medium sized. Whatever shape or size of your boobs is just right. Love your breasts! They have superpowers, they are intelligent, and they are amazing! In Mongolia, when a baby fusses, everyone lifts up their shirt and shakes their breasts for the baby, and the baby calms down and looks around amazed. Everyone laughs and smiles shaking their boobs, including mom, grandma, and grandpa too! So smile and love your boobs, they are awesome. (Mongolia you say? I knew they were cool somehow…now I know. hehe)

Viva La Boobies!

Read the Full Article: http://karamariaananda.com/blog/2013/5/27/viva-la-boobies
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So, I have even more pride in my breasts now more than ever. I will be placing a lot more focus on the girls (a term I never really used) and squeeze them for extra love AND preventative measures.

Stimulating Anticipation

Today I am fascinated with the concept of Anticipation Addiction. The following articles touch on the source and reason for our reactions to dopamine addiction delayed gratification and how to improve on the pleasure of Anticipation!

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ARE WE ADDICTED TO ANTICIPATION NOT REWARD?
Oct 10, 2011 at 8:02 am by David Bradley

My recent Research Highlight about “dopamine addiction“, raises a few intriguing points about how all addictive behaviour might be to do with the reward mechanism derived from rising dopamine levels in the brain that stimulate various pleasure centres. However, there is another way of looking at it: addiction is not about the reward of dopamine but the anticipation of that reward. US neurologist Robert Sapolsky explains the difference. It’s the uncertainty of the reward that drives behaviour and for humans that reward anticipation can last on the short timescale of slot machines at Las Vegas to the decades long anticipation of heaven’s unearthly estate for many.

This is a subtle shift in emphasis. We’re perhaps not addicted to the rewarding feelings of dopamine but to the anticipation of dopamine and thus to anything that sustains dopamine levels through that anticipation whether gambling, drugs, sex, or the pursuit of money, power and the religious endpoint. My original article asked whether dopamine is the most evil chemical in the world. In the light of Sapolsky’s argument, dopamine itself is not the evil chemical, just the possibility of dopamine…we’re not addicted to the chemical, we’re addicted to the possibility of the chemical.

7.7 The nature of desire, anticipation and ego

Desire by ego is a strong emotion that effects our whole being. As we have discussed the word by its original component parts translates as “to have a strong wish for, to long for, crave, to feel the want of, to miss.” As we also discussed, it is a peculiar word in that its Latin components parts de = “I”, sider = “consider” and ate = “infatuation” (ate= the Latinized version of the Greek goddess of infatuation, considered the goddess of misfortune and rash destruction).
What we anticipate, what we desire is often greater in mental stimulation than the gratification we receive. More so, it is often the stimulation derived from anticipation of gratification that gives us greater pleasure than the final gratification. Let us explain further what we mean.

7.7.1 The pleasure of anticipation for sex

Sexual anticipation is one of the greatest pleasures of the mind, surpassed only sometimes by the pleasure of sexual fantasy and masturbation.
What we mean is that the physical feelings experienced along with heightened stimulation from near anticipation of a sexual encounter where we find greater than level of overall sexual experience of the act.
To some, this might appear to be wrong and misguided, given our ability to recall moments of great sexual pleasure. However, are these memories exact? or are these memories accurate? For example, did the person we experience the sexual pleasure with look exactly like our memory of the experience? Did all of our memory of sexual pleasure come from the act, or did some of it come from the feeling of satisfaction in fulfillment of the expectation?
In this we explain fulfillment of expectation/desire as the goal of sexual pleasure with someone we have desired, someone we consider sexually attractive?
When we discount the memory of the pleasure derived from the fulfillment of desire/goal, is our memory of the actual sexual encounters still greater than our actual memory of the act?
Without the initial desire, without the anticipation, stimulation leading to the fulfillment would not necessarily be as pleasurable.
Thus, we see the mind, the ego, the desires of I playing a substantial part in the fulfillment of pleasure from the act.

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TOP SEX SECRETS THAT WOMEN LOVE
 27 JULY 2009
http://psyduction.com/relationships/top-sex-secrets-that-women-love.html

Anticipation

Anticipation is one of the best emotions a woman can feel. Telling her things such as “I have a surprise for you…” will tingle her silly as she anticipates the ‘surprise’. If you enjoy non-missionary sex once in a while maybe you should partake in a little ‘different’ situation and use a blindfold.

Using a blindfold will block out her sense of sight while increasing her other senses allowing her to experience every single stroke of her body that you provide. If you know your girlfriend or wife won’t enjoy this straight up, you could try easing it into a conversation and gauging her reaction. You never know, maybe it’s one of her top fantasies (hint #6!) that she has been waiting to act out.

You could also try stopping once you find something she really enjoys. When you find something that turns her on the act of stopping with create unspeakable amounts of anticipation as she waits for you to do it again.

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The last article really hit it home for me and I read on and truly thought the site had a lot to say so be sure to read on and, by all means, ENJOY!

Attraction and Science

image6I am such a fan of science. Attraction and Sex Appeal are so transient I had to find out if there was a method to the madness. Based on physical appearance in the span of a movie I can go from total captivation to absolute repulsion completely based on personality and that is without employing anything but basic character assesment. Now I am a very instinctual, while simultaniously relying on my olfactory senses, when finding people that appeal to me. Male cologne, although occasionally pleasant, typically is a deturrent to my real assessment of a person’s potential. I, as well, rarely if ever wear a scent other that deoderant and even that must not have a cloying over bearing scent. The article below lays out how a majority of humans respond to stimulus from the opposite sex. Keep in mind it is not a perfect recipe but more a fluxuating miasma of generalized facts based upon a study group. In some cases my attractions fit with the general populace but my ultimate attraction is to the brain and thoughts my partner chooses to share and the creativity and intellect with which they chose to divulge these ideas.
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THE SCIENCE OF SEX APPEAL
A range of studies brings us closer to finally understanding the mysteries of sexual attraction

by Lee Elliott-Major, Monday 15 January 2001 10.29 EST

How can men make themselves irresistible to women? Put on a deep booming voice, mention that you are already hitched, and slip into the conversation that you have recently been down to the gym. Oh yes, and try and look rugged and masculine, in a kind of Russell Crowe way. In short, be a real man. But even then your mix of pheromones might be the chemical cocktail that repels rather than attracts a woman.

These are the latest research results from the scientists and academics on the scent of sexual attraction. Experiments are honing in on the secret factors behind sex appeal as researchers across the globe work to demystify the human mating game.

Women perceive men with deep voices as being more attractive, stronger and taller than men who speak in high-pitched tones, Nottingham University’s behavioral ecology research group revealed last week. After hearing recordings of 34 men aged between 18 and 30 uttering five vowel sounds, 54 women rated the men’s attractiveness.

Men speaking in ‘low frequency harmonics’ were judged to be more attractive, older and heavier, more likely to have a hairy chest and be more muscular. In reality, there was no connection between the deepness of a man’s voice and his chest hair, muscles or height.

Simply mentioning that you have been working on your muscles down the gym though helps to impress others – irrespective of whether this is actually true or not, Canadian researchers revealed earlier this month.

Mentioning that you exercise regularly when first meeting someone creates a positive perception of your personality and physical condition, says the paper published in the Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology.

Academics at McMaster University in Ontario asked 627 Canadian men and women to rate an individual’s personality and physical attributes based on a brief description that included the person’s gender and information on whether they exercised.

Non-exercisers were considered to have fewer friends, and to be less brave, smart, neat, happy, sociable and friendly. They were more often perceived as sickly, scrawny and sexually unattractive in comparison to their supposedly healthy, muscular, and sexually attractive counterparts who exercised regularly.

Meanwhile, females find males more attractive if other females also show interest, concluded a study at University of Louisville, Kentucky, last month. Women thought that wealth, rather than a sense of humour or social skills, was the reason why the man was attractive to other women.

The finding that women, like all female members of the animal kingdom, engage in “mate copying” explains a number of social phenomena: why women are attracted more to married men than single men; and why ugly pop stars have so many women swooning at their feet.

The researchers presented 166 female undergraduates with a report in which five (fictitious) women rated the physical attractiveness of a man, and indicated whether they were interested in dating him. The female students were more likely to express interest in the man if more of the women in report had also done so.

A study at St Andrews University, meanwhile this month reported that beautiful women go for more masculine men. A woman’s taste depends on how attractive she thinks she is. The academics reckon that beautiful women go for masculine men because they are driven by the urge to have beautiful children while less attractive women find a partner who is least likely to desert them. (Ugh how sad is that ladies? Just one more reason to get that self esteem UP!)

But Australian academics at Southern Cross University have found that particular pheromones can produce very different reactions among women. In one test, nursing students were put in a room and asked to choose between two T-shirts, one of which was laced with a pheromone. The study found that some were strongly attracted to the pheromone T-shirt, but others were put off by it. The researchers are still convinced that pheromone sprays in shops could directly and subconsciously affect the purchasing decisions of females.

Tests carried out at the University of Northumbria last year showed that women found ugly men more attractive when they were secretly exposed to the chemicals found in their armpits.

Finally, scientists think they have got to the bottom of the major question in all sex surveys: why men report higher numbers of partners than women. Academics at the University of Washington found that studies about human sexual activity leave out one crucial factor: prostitutes. The researchers conclude that women working as prostitutes are under-represented in the surveys.

Read the Full Article: http://www.guardian.co.uk/education/2001/jan/15/highereducation
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So in conclusion it is a cluster fuck out there. Be safe, be happy and find whoever makes you heart skip a beat. Looks aren’t everything but you better smell good!

Sexual Fantasy Friday

SEXUAL FANTASY

Sexual fantasy refers to the mental image of a person, object, or situation, often but certainly not always involving a sexual component. Human sexuality is a dimension of social life that is often rich with many different sorts of fantasies. Sexual fantasies often entail mental scenarios involving persons other than one’s regular partner and include sexual activities considered culturally inappropriate or unacceptable.

What Triggers Sexual Fantasies?
People vary considerably in their ability to fantasize and in their enjoyment of this behavior. Fantasies may supplant reality for some or may serve as a poor substitute of sexual reality for others. Fantasies are often triggered by external stimuli, such as an attractive stranger or an erotic picture, movie, or story.
Researchers have varying views on gender differences in fantasizing. Some argue that males are more prone to fantasize while others assert that fantasy is more common among women. Linda Wolfe studied a sample of 15,000 women ages 18-34, and less than three percent said they never fantasize.

Male Sexual Fantasies
In Western societies, males more often use sexually explicit material as a part of fantasy, whereas females are more likely to rely upon romance stories. Females are more likely to prefer erotica with a “softer,” more imaginative side rather than the “harder,” more explicit forms preferred by many males.
The male fantasy world relies heavily upon novel experiences filled with culturally-defined beautiful women who are always sexually available and free. Pornographic magazines such as Playboy and Penthouse, as well as a wide array of so-called harder publications (because they depict explicit sex acts), attempt to capitalize upon such fantasies.

Female Sexual Fantasies
Women often base their fantasies upon previous sexual experiences and tend to emphasize romance and intimacy. The onset of the women’s liberation movement has created a renaissance in erotic fiction aimed at women by women writers and film makers.
“In Women On Top”, Nancy Friday maintains that women have started a sexual revolution for equality and should implement it with a rich fantasy life. In her study of over 10,000 women, Friday noted that in recent years women’s fantasies have relied more on active, assertive women giving pleasure, as compared to the fantasies containing more passive women receiving pleasure indicated by prior research. These findings suggest the importance of social environment (e.g., the impact of feminism) on the structuring of fantasy.
People generally fantasize when engaging in autoerotic sex or masturbation. In his research findings, the prominent sexologist Alfred C. Kinsey reported that fantasy accompanied masturbation for the majority (sixty-four percent) of females and virtually all males. About two percent of the women in his study sample reported achieving orgasm by fantasy alone. Older females were more prone to fantasize than younger females. Some people, particularly but not solely those from rural areas, have fantasies about sexual contact with animals.

What do sexual fantasies mean?
Having a fantasy about a particular sexual practice or activity does not mean that a person actually wishes to engage in that behavior or that he/she would enjoy the behavior.
While fantasy may enhance actual sexual practices, it should not be assumed that a fantasized behavior represents an unconscious desire. Thus, some women fantasize about being overpowered or even raped by a man, but this does not mean they actually want to be raped.
Similarly, some men fantasize about multiple sexual partners, but would find it emotionally difficult to maintain several simultaneous relationships.
In recent years, there has been a greater openness about fantasy and a greater recognition of how common this behavior is for both men and women.
While fantasy often is treated as an individual behavior, partners sometimes “act out” shared fantasies to enhance their enjoyment of sex. Computers and the internet have contributed to a new arena of fantasy behavior, with extensive electronic exchange of pornography, interactive role-playing communication, fantasy-constructed chat rooms, and other forms of eroticized and non-eroticized fantasy communication among computer users.
Therapists have found that fantasy can be useful in helping patients overcome sexual problems. With the help of a therapist, the individual may, through fantasy, confront the fearful stages of intimacy and lovemaking and reduce or eliminate those fears and apprehensions.
Copyright 2002 Sinclair Intimacy Institute

Read the Full Article: http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/sexuality/sexual-fantasy-dictionary2.htm
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image3So why did I post this article? Because as of next week I will be posting Sexual Fantasies. Be warned, be prepared and by all means enjoy and have fun. AND feel free to whisper in my ear topics and ideas you would like me to touch on (wink wink)

❤ Z

Finally in the Driver’s Seat!

sexdrivefontOver the years I have had a wildly ranging Sex Drive that has both taken me for a ride placing me in the passenger seat to endure whatever came down the road or made me feel like I was in a parking lot locked in the car at an amusement park. I can see everyone having a great time, screaming with joy as they ride their own roller coaster, but for some reason couldn’t figure out how to get out and have fun to. I am finally in the drivers seat of my own sex drive and I am looking for answers.
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THE SCIENCE OF COUGAR SEX: WHY OLDER WOMEN LUST

A new journal article suggests that evolutionary forces also push women to be more sexual, although in unexpected ways.
tasteUniversity of Texas psychologist David Buss wrote the article, which appears in the July issue of Personality and Individual Differences, with the help of three graduate students, Judith Easton (who is listed as lead author), Jaime Confer and Cari Goetz. Buss, Easton and their colleagues found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America’s most sexually industrious.

Read the Full Article: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2007422,00.html
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SEX DRIVE: HOW DO MEN AND WOMEN COMPARE?

Experts say men score higher in libido, while women’s sex drive is more “fluid.

Women’s sex drives are more influenced by social and cultural factors.
In his review, Baumeister found studies showing many ways in which women’s sexual attitudes, practices and desires were more influenced by their environment than men:

  • Women’s attitudes towards (and willingness to perform) various sexual practices are more likely than men’s to change over time.
  • Women who regularly attend church are less likely to have permissive attitudes about sex. Men do not show this connection between church attendance and sex attitudes.
  • Women are more influenced by the attitudes of their peer group in their decisions about sex.
  • Women with higher education levels were more likely to have performed a wider variety of sexual practices (such as oral sex); education made less of a difference with men.
  • Women were more likely than men to show inconsistency between their expressed values about sexual activities such as premarital sex and their actual behavior.

Why are women’s sex drives seemingly weaker and more vulnerable to influence? Some have theorized it is related to the greater power of men in society, or differing sexual expectations of men when compared to women. Laumann prefers an explanation more closely tied to the world of sociobiology.
Women take a less direct route to sexual satisfaction.
Men and women travel slightly different paths to arrive at sexual desire. “I hear women say in my office that desire originates much more between the ears than between the legs,” says Esther Perel, a New York City psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity. “For women there is a need for a plot — hence the romance novel. It is more about the anticipation, how you get there; it is the longing that is the fuel for desire,” Perel says. (HELLO!!!!! Reading and Writing my ASS off here!!!! You’ve seen my ass it is very demanding and extremely self conscious.)
Women’s desire “is more contextual, more subjective, more layered on a lattice of emotion,” Perel adds. Men, by contrast, don’t need to have nearly as much imagination, Perel says, since sex is simpler and more straightforward for them.

That does not mean that men do not seek intimacy, love, and connection in a relationship, just as women do. They just view the role of sex differently. “Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex,” Perel explains. “For men, sex is the connection. Sex is the language men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side,” Perel says. “It is their language of intimacy.”

Read the Full Article: http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare
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So I can be in the driver seat and get carried away in a car with no brakes because what really matters is that in reality I only have a finite amount of time left on this earth, I am a human being, I am a woman, and everything I am feeling is NORMAL!

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